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A term derived from the Latin, famulus, servant, and familia, household servants, or the household (cf. Oscan famel, servant). In the classical Roman period the familia
rarely included the parents or the children. Its English derivative was
frequently used in former times to describe all the persons of the
domestic circle, parents, children, and servants. Present usage,
however, excludes servants, and restricts the word family to
that fundamental social group formed by the more or less permanent
union of one man with one woman, or of one or more men with one or more
women, and their children. If the heads of the group comprise only one
man and one woman we have the monogamous family, as distinguished from
those domestic societies which live in conditions of polygamy,
polyandry, or promiscuity. Certain anthropological writers of the last half of the
nineteenth century, as Bachofen (Das Mutterrecht, Stuttgart, 1861),
Morgan (Ancient Society, London, 1877), Mc'Lennan (The Patriarchal
Theory, London, 1885), Lang (Custom and Myth, London, 1885), and
Lubbock (The Origin of Civilization and the Primitive Condition of Man,
London, 1889), created and developed the theory that the original form
of the family was one in which all the women of a group, horde, or
tribe, belonged promiscuously to all the men of the community.
Following the lead of Engels (The Origin of the Family, Private
Property, and the State, tr. from the German, Chicago, 1902), many
Socialist writers have adopted this theory as quite in harmony with
their materialistic interpretation of history. The chief considerations
advanced in its favour are: the assumption that in primitive times all
property was common, and that this condition naturally led to community
of women; certain historical statements by ancient writers like Strabo,
Herodotus, and Pliny; the practice of promiscuity, at a comparatively
late date, by some uncivilized peoples, such as the Indians of
California and a few aboriginal tribes of India; the system of tracing
descent and kinship through the mother, which prevailed among some
primitive people; and certain abnormal customs of ancient races, such
as religious prostitution, the so-called jus primæ noctis, the lending of wives to visitors, cohabitation of the sexes before marriage, etc.
At no time has this theory obtained general Acceptance, even
among non-Christian writers, and it is absolutely rejected by some of
the best authorities of today, e.g. Westermarck (The History of Human
Marriage, London, 1901) and Letourneau (The Evolution of Marriage, tr.
from the French, New York, 1888). In reply to the arguments just
stated, Westermarck and others point out that the hypothesis of
primitive communism has by no means been proved, at least in its
extreme form; that common property in goods does not necessarily lead
to community of wives, since family and marriage relations are subject
to other motives as well as to those of a purely economic character;
that the testimonies of classical historians in the matter are
inconclusive, vague, and fragmentary, and refer to only a few
instances; that the modern cases of promiscuity are isolated and
exceptional, and may be attributed to degeneracy rather than to
primitive survivals; that the practice of tracing kinship through the
mother finds ample explanation in other facts besides the assumed
uncertainty of paternity, and that it was never universal; that the
abnormal sexual relations cited above are more obviously, as well as
more satisfactorily, explained by other circumstances, religious,
political, and social, than by the hypothesis of primitive promiscuity;
and, finally, that evolution, which, superficially viewed, seems to
support this hypothesis, is in reality against it, inasmuch as the
unions between the male and the female of many of the higher species of
animals exhibit a degree of stability and exclusiveness which bears
some resemblance to that of the monogamous family. The utmost concession which Letourneau will make to the theory
under discussion is that "promiscuity may have been adopted by certain
small groups, more probably by certain associations or brotherhoods"
(op. cit., p. 44). Westermarck does not hesitate to say: "The
hypothesis of promiscuity, instead of belonging, as Professor
Giraud-Teulon thinks, to the class of hypotheses which are
scientifically permissible has no real foundation, and is essentially
unscientific" (op. cit., p. 133). The theory that the original form of
the family was either polygamy or polyandry is even less worthy of
credence or consideration. In the main, the verdict of scientific
writers is in harmony with the Scriptural doctrine concerning the
origin and the normal form of the family: "Wherefore a man shall leave
father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they shall be two
in one flesh" (Gen., ii, 24). "Therefore now they are not two, but one
flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder"
(Matt., xix, 6). From the beginning, therefore, the family supposed the
union of one man with one woman. While monogamy was the prevailing form of the family before
Christ, it was limited in various degrees among many peoples by the
practice of polygamy. This practice was on the whole more common among
the Semitic races than among the Aryans. It was more frequent among the
Jews, the Egyptians, and the Medes, than among the people of India, the
Greeks, or the Romans. It existed to a greater extent among the
uncivilized races, although some of these were free from it. Moreover,
even those nations which practised polygamy, whether civilized or
uncivilized, usually restricted it to a small minority of the
population, as the kings, the chiefs, the nobles, and the rich.
Polyandry was likewise practised, but with considerably less frequency.
According to Westermarck, monogamy was by far the most common form of
marriage "among the ancient peoples of whom we have any direct
knowledge" (op. cit., p. 459). On the other hand, divorce was in vogue
among practically all peoples, and to a much greater extent than
polygamy. The ease with which husband and wife could dissolve their
union constitutes one of the greatest blots upon the civilization of
classic Rome. Generally speaking, the position of woman was very low
among all the nations, civilized and uncivilized, before the coming of
Christ. Among the barbarians she very frequently became a wife through
capture or purchase; among even the most advanced peoples the wife was
generally her husband's property, his chattel, his labourer. Nowhere
was the husband bound by the same law of marital fidelity as the wife,
and in very few places was he compelled to concede to her equal rights
in the matter of divorce. Infanticide was practically universal, and
the patria potestas of the Roman father gave him the right of
life and death over even his grown-up children. In a word, the weaker
members of the family were everywhere inadequately protected against
the stronger. THE CHRISTIAN FAMILY
Christ not only restored the family to its
original type as something holy, permanent, and monogamous, but raised
the contract from which it springs to the dignity of a sacrament, and
thus placed the family itself upon the plane of the supernatural. The
family is holy inasmuch as it is to co-operate with God by procreating
children who are destined to be the adopted children of God, and by
instructing them for His kingdom. The union between husband and wife is
to last until death (Matt., xix, 6 sq.; Luke, xvi, 18; Mark, x, 11; I
Cor., vii, 10; see MARRIAGE, DIVORCE). That this is the highest form of
the conjugal union, and the best arrangement for the welfare both of
the family and of society, will appear to anyone who compares
dispassionately the moral and material effects with those flowing from
the practice of divorce. Although divorce has obtained to a greater or
less extent among the majority of peoples from the beginning until now,
"there is abundant evidence that marriage has, upon the whole, become
more durable in proportion as the human race has risen to higher
degrees of cultivation" (Westermarck, op. cit., p. 535). While the attempts that have been made
to show that divorce is in every case forbidden by the moral law of
nature have not been convincing on their own merits, to say nothing of
certain facts of Old Testament history, the absolute indissolubility of
marriage is nevertheless the ideal to which the natural law points, and
consequently is to be expected in an order that is supernatural. In the
family, as re-established by Christ, there is likewise no such thing as
polygamy (see the references already given in this paragraph, and
POLYGAMY). This condition, too, is in accord with nature's ideal.
Polygamy is not, indeed, condemned in every instance by the natural
law, but it is generally inconsistent with the reasonable welfare of
the wife and children, and the proper moral development of the husband.
Because of these qualities of permanence and unity, the Christian
family implies a real and definite equality of husband and wife. They
have equal rights in the matter of the primary conjugal relation, equal
claims upon mutual fidelity, and equal obligations to make this
fidelity real. They are equally guilty when they violate these
obligations, and equally deserving of pardon when they repent. The wife is neither the slave nor the
property of her husband, but his consort and companion. The Christian
family is supernatural, inasmuch as it originates in a sacrament.
Through the sacrament of matrimony husband and wife obtain an increase
of sanctifying grace, and a claim upon those actual graces which are
necessary to the proper fulfilment of all the duties of family life,
and the relations between husband and wife, parents and children, are
supernaturalized and sanctified. The end and the ideal of the Christian
family are likewise supernatural, namely, the salvation of parents and
children, and the union between Christ and His Church. "Husbands, love
your wives, as Christ also loved the church, and delivered himself up
for it", says St. Paul (Eph., v, 25). And the intimacy of the marital
union, the identification, almost, of husband and wife, is seen in the
injunction: "So also ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.
He that loveth his wife, loveth himself" (Eph., v. 28). From these general facts of the
Christian family, the particular relations existing among its members
can be readily deduced. Since the average man and woman are not
normally complete as individuals, but are rather the two complementary
parts of one social organism, in which their material, moral, and
spiritual needs receive mutual satisfaction, a primary requisite of
their union is mutual love. This includes not merely the love of the
senses, which is essentially selfish, not necessarily that sentimental
love which anthropologists call romantic, but above all that rational
love or affection, which springs from an appreciation of qualities of
mind and heart, and which impels each to seek the welfare of the other.
As the intimate and long association of husband and wife necessarily
bring to the surface their less noble and lovable qualities, and as the
rearing of children involves great trials, the need of disinterested
love, the ability to sacrifice self, is obviously grave. The obligations of mutual fidelity
have been sufficiently stated above. The particular functions of
husband and wife in the family are determined by their different
natures, and by their relation to the primary end of the family,
namely, the procreation of children. Being the provider of the family,
and the superior of the wife both in physical strength and in those
mental and moral qualities which are appropriate to the exercise of
authority, the husband is naturally the family's head, even "the head
of the wife", in the language of St. Paul. This does not mean that the
wife is the husband's slave, his servant, or his subject. She is his
equal, both as a human being and as member of the conjugal society,
save only that when a disagreement arises in matters pertaining to
domestic government, she is, as a rule, to yield. To claim for her
completely equal authority with the husband is to treat woman as man's
equal in a matter in which nature has made them unequal. On the other
hand the care and management of the details of the household belong
naturally to the wife, because she is better fitted for these tasks
than the husband. Since the primary end of the family is
the procreation children, the husband or wife who shirks this duty from
any but spiritual or moral motives reduces the family to an unnatural
and unchristian level. This is emphatically true when the absence of
offspring has been effected by any of the artificial and immoral
devices so much in vogue at present. When the conjugal union has been
blessed with children, both parents are charged, according to their
respective functions, with the duty of sustaining and educating those
undeveloped members of the family. Their moral and religious formation
is for the most part the work of the mother, while the task of
providing for their physical and intellectual wants falls chiefly upon
the father. The extent to which the different wants of the children are
to be supplied will vary with the ability and resources of the parents.
Finally, the children are bound, generally speaking, to render to the
parents implicit love, reverence, and obedience, until they have
reached their majority, and love, reverence, and a reasonable degree of
support and obedience afterward. The most important external relations
of the family are, of course, those existing between it and the State.
According to the Christian conception, the family, rather than the
individual, is the social unit and the basis of civil society. To say
that the family is the social unit is not to imply that it is the end
to which the individual is a means; for the welfare of the individual
is the end both of the family and of the State, as well as of every
other social organization. The meaning is that the State is formally
concerned with the family as such, and not merely with the individual.
This distinction is of great practical importance; for where the State
ignores or neglects the family, keeping in view only the welfare of the
individual, the result is a strong tendency towards the disintegration
of the former. The family is the basis of civil society, inasmuch as
the greater majority of persons ought to spend practically all their
lives in its circle, either as subjects or as heads. Only in the family
can the individual be properly reared, educated, and given that
formation of character which will make him a good man and a good
citizen. Inasmuch as the average man will not
put forth his full productive energies except under the stimulus of its
responsibilities, the family is indispensable from the purely economic
viewpoint. Now the family cannot rightly discharge its functions unless
the parents have full control over the rearing and education of the
children, subject only to such State supervision as is needed to
prevent grave neglect of their welfare. Hence it follows that,
generally speaking, and with due allowance for particular conditions,
the State exceeds its authority when it provides for the material wants
of the child, removes him from parental influence, or specifies the
school that he must attend. As a consequence of these concepts and
ideals, the Christian family in history has proved itself immeasurably
superior to the non-Christian family. It has exhibited greater fidelity
between husband and wife, greater reverence for the parents by the
children, greater protection of the weaker members by the stronger, and
in general a more thorough recognition of the dignity and rights of all
within its circle. Its chief glory is undoubtedly its effect upon the
position of woman. Notwithstanding the disabilities--for the most part
with regard to property, education, and a practically recognized double
standard of morals--under which the Christian woman has suffered, she
has attained to a height of dignity, respect, and authority for which
we shall look in vain in the conjugal society outside of Christianity.
The chief factor in this improvement has been the Christian teaching on
chastity, conjugal equality, the sacredness of motherhood, and the
supernatural end of the family, together with the Christian model and
ideal of family life, the Holy Family at Nazareth. The contention of some writers that
the Church's teaching and practice concerning virginity and celibacy,
make for the degradation and deterioration of the family, not only
springs from a false and perverse view of these practices, but
contradicts the facts of history. Although she has always held
virginity in higher honour than marriage, the Church has never
sanctioned the extreme view, attributed to some ascetical writers, that
marriage is a mere concession to the flesh, a sort of tolerated carnal
indulgence. In her eyes the marriage rite has ever been a sacrament,
the married state a holy state, the family a Divine institution, and
family life the normal condition for the great majority of mankind.
Indeed, her teaching on virginity, and the spectacle of thousands of
her sons and daughters exemplifying that teaching, have in every age
constituted a most effective exaltation of chastity in general, and
therefore of chastity within as well as without the family. Teaching
and example have combined to convince the wedded, not less than the
unwedded, that purity and restraint are at once desirable and
practically possible. Today, as always, it is precisely in those
communities where virginity is most honoured that the ideal of the
family is highest, and its relations purest. DANGERS FOR THE FAMILY
Among these are the exaltation of the
individual by the State at the expense of the family, which has been
going on since the Reformation (cf. the Rev. Dr. Thwing, in Bliss,
"Encyclopedia of Social Reform"), and the modern facility of divorce
(see DIVORCE), which may be traced to the same source. The greatest
offender in the latter respect is the United States, but the tendency
seems to be towards easier methods in most of the other countries in
which divorce is allowed. Legal authorization and popular approval of
the dissolution of the marriage bond, not only breaks up existing
families, but encourages rash marriages, and produces a laxer view of
the obligation of conjugal fidelity. Another danger is the deliberate
limitation of the number of children in a family. This practice tempts
parents to overlook the chief end of the family, and to regard their
union as a mere means of mutual gratification. Furthermore, it leads to
a lessening of the capacity of self-sacrifice in all the members of the
family. Closely connected with these two evils of divorce and
artificial restriction of births, is the general laxity of opinion with
regard to sexual immorality. Among its causes are the diminished
influence of religion, the absence of religious and moral training in
the schools, and the seemingly feebler emphasis laid upon the
heinousness of the sin of unchastity by those whose moral training has
not been under Catholic auspices. Its chief effects are disinclination
to marry, marital infidelity, and the contraction of diseases which
produce domestic unhappiness and sterile families. The idle and frivolous lives of the
women, both wives and daughters, in many wealthy families is also a
menace. In the position which they hold, the mode of life which they
lead, and the ideals which they cherish, many of these women remind us
somewhat of the hetæræ of classical Athens. For they enjoy
great freedom, and exercise great influence over the husband and
father, and their chief function seems to be to entertain him, to
enhance his social prestige, to minister to his vanity, to dress well,
and to reign as social queens. They have emancipated themselves from
any serious self-sacrifice on behalf of the husband or the family,
while the husband has likewise declared his independence of any strict
construction of the duty of conjugal fidelity. The bond between them is
not sufficiently moral and spiritual, and is excessively sensual,
social, and aesthetic. And the evil example of this conception of
family life extends far beyond those who are able to put it into
practice. Still another danger is the decline of family authority among
all classes, the diminished obedience and respect imposed upon and
exhibited by children. Its consequences are imperfect discipline in the
family, defective moral character in the children, and manifold
unhappiness among all. Finally, there is the danger, physical
and moral, threatening the family owing to the widespread and steadily
increasing presence of women in industry. In 1900 the number of females
sixteen years of age and over engaged in gainful occupations in the
United States, was 4,833,630, which was more than double the number so
occupied in 1880, and which constituted 20 per cent of the whole number
of females above sixteen years in the country, whereas the number at
work in 1880 formed only 16 percent of the same division of the female
population. In the cities of America two women out of every seven are
bread-winners (see Special Report of the U.S. Census, "Women at Work").
This condition implies an increased proportion of married women at work
as wage earners, an increased proportion of women who are less capable
physically of undertaking the burdens of family life, a smaller
proportion of marriages, an increase in the proportion of women who,
owing to a delusive idea of independence, are disinclined to marry, and
a weakening of family bonds and domestic authority. "In 1890, 1 married
woman in 22 was a bread-winner; in 1900, 1 in 18" (ibid.). Perhaps the
most striking evil result of married women in industry is the high
death-rate among infants. For infants under one year the rate in 1900
over the whole United States, was 165 per 1000, but it was 305 in Fall
River, where the proportion of married women at work is greatest. As
the supreme causes of all these dangers to the family are the decay of
religion and the growth of materialistic views of life, so the future
of the family will depend upon the extent to which these forces can be
checked. And experience seems to show that there can be no permanent
middle ground between the materialistic ideal of divorce, so easy that
the marital union will be terminable at the will of the parties, and
the Catholic ideal of marriage absolutely indissoluble.
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